Have you ever feel like you hate your life, or like the world owe you something, or like you get stuck in this dark place with no way out, or just feel plain miserable? I have and I’m sure some of you out there have as well.
When I was in my mid to late-twenties, I was once in really unhappy place. I was constantly stressed and very unhappy, easily triggered by the smallest thing, and have bellyful of complaints about everything. I had a hard time dealing with people, had zero patience, had bouts of panic attacks at random times and a really bad insomnia as well.
This unhappy me was hanging around for about 3-4 years until I finally got help from the people around me.
So what changed? How did I manage to crawl out from my little dark hole? At that point, I reached the breaking point and decided to take an ACTION. That is to leave the source of unhappiness. I was actually really lucky because just at this point in time, one of ex-colleague offered a “ticket” to get out of my ‘hell”. And I grabbed that opportunity with no hesitation.
Just by taking that action, my life completely changed, to the better.
You see, when we are down, when we feel we are in a dark place, when we feel we have no one to help us out, when things are just not working well even though we have tried our best. There will always be a moment where you start to see light on the other side. Be it somebody suddenly reached out to you, or the universe heard your call and gave you a new lease of life (you may think I’m joking about I’m not). It happened to me and I am forever grateful.
Why am I telling this story? I want to share my own story for others to see that there is light at the end of the tunnel. But we also need to realise something. We also need to reach inside and really look at why we are in this dreadful state of mind. Look deeper, and see whether it is because of a toxic relationship, a stressful job, peer pressure, high expectations from family members, financial situation, study overload, negative comments/criticism (esp from the online world), or whatever it is that you cannot cope with. See if you can do something about it. Back when I was in my unhappy place, I hid it from my parents as they live apart from me and they are really old. I also felt like at my age I should really handle things myself and not adding more worries for them so often times I cried, I pulled my hair out all by myself at home and no one knew. I am sure some of you also may have experienced similar things.
In this regard, again I am very lucky and super grateful to have very supporting group of friends and family. They believe in me when I lost faith in myself. They gave me an advice, company, and continuous support. I probably annoyed them to death during that dark period, but they stood by me until now and I am forever grateful for their presence in my life.
Maybe you can reach out to somebody, be it a friend, another family member, or even stranger from a dedicated organisation like Beyond Blue. Start writing your thoughts out. Pick up a new hobby. Adopt an adorable pet like an otter (I swear they are THE MOST adorable creatures, if only it's legal here to adopt one).
The point is to do something about it. Take action. Walk away from toxic environment. Cut off everything that no longer serve you, that holds you back from healing and moving on. If you don’t take action, none of this will matter and nothing will help you. No amount of complaining will help aside from
dragging you even deeper to that dark hole you are in. At the end, only YOU can change YOU, no one else. Everything starts from ourselves.
I decided to write this to see if I can help in anyway. Please don’t suffer in silence. Don’t put everything on your shoulders. Share, share it with adorable otters. In this big bad world, they are people who care about you. You just have to reach out and ask for help. Once you see the light on the other side, you will walk out STRONGER and hopefully be a BETTER version of you!
If you know someone who is going through a hard time, please offer help. ❤️.
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